Tea-Time!

A South African tradition is to have tea midway through the morning. At school, our kids even have a “tea break” that is essentially a snack break.

Recently, I traveled with ELCA Global Mission colleague, Heidi Torgerson, and her mom, Becky. They came with me for a number of site visits. Heidi oversees the Young Adults in Global Mission (YAGM) program from the Chicago office. This was her opportunity to experience the life and locations of the volunteers in the Southern Africa program and to meet our companions in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in Southern Africa (ELCSA).

Looking back through my photos, I realized that we had “tea” at most of the places we visited. You could say that we came at the right time of day. Mostly true. But also, this is what one does. It is a sign of hospitality and welcome. It is also right that as we meet together we should also share food together.

Here are some images of the various “tea” times we experienced:

Tea at Umphumulo where Ryan serves as a YAGM volunteer. Birthday cake was included to celebrate Ryan’s birthday the day previous.

 

At the Lutheran preschool at Lekubu, where Josh serves, we were fed lunch and tea, as well as the peanut butter sandwiches and freshly made "chips" (french fries) pictures here.

At the Lutheran preschool at Lekubu, where Josh serves, we were fed lunch and tea, as well as the peanut butter sandwiches and freshly made “chips” (french fries) pictured here.

 

At the Lutheran Art and Craft Centre in Rorke's Drift where Lily volunteers, we were served their traditional tea break treat of magwinya / fat cakes, a yummy deep fried dough. Here, the director of the center, Mrs. Princess Tyler, is cutting the magwina.

At the Lutheran Art and Craft Centre in Rorke’s Drift where Lily volunteers, we were served their traditional tea break treat of magwinya / fat cakes, a yummy deep fried dough. Here, the director of the center, Mrs. Princess Tyler, is cutting the magwina.

 

"Tea" at Bethlehem Lutheran was a full breakfast spread which included breakfast cereal and milk, hard boiled eggs, and sandwiches!

“Tea” at Bethlehem Lutheran was a full breakfast spread which included breakfast cereal and milk, hard boiled eggs, and sandwiches!

 

 

 

 

Saturday Afternoon

It is almost 4pm on sunny winter Saturday. Our west-facing living room is filled with cozy sunshine. I’ve decided to end the daylight part of the day with a cup of coffee and a book.

I’m trying to read through the books I’ve accumulated on my shelves. Today, needing a new book, I pulled off the book pictured below. It is from a popular American author. And as much as I’m ready for an engaging read, I have been wanting to read this book because of where I got it.

Here’s the story of its acquisition. I was in Cape Town for work. I had met someone for lunch at a restaurant right near the beach in Muzinberg, a popular tourist spot. I wanted to take in the beach for a few minute before leaving.

I walked to the beach. There was a man with a duffle bag and some books, spread out on a bench. He caught my attention and told me the books were for sale. “How much?” I asked. “Pay what you can,” he replied. I looked to see if there was something I wanted to buy. Luckily, I saw the book below and knew I’d enjoy another one from that author and I made my purchase, offering what I thought was fair for a used book. In the transaction, I also met the woman he introduced as his wife. She was pregnant. They were down on luck. I have forgotten the details of their sory but it was clear that the income from the books was helpful.

I didn’t ask him where he got the books. I didn’t know what the answer would be or what he could tell me. But I noticed he did not want to stay and chat. He was quick to sweep the books into the bag and move on. There are a lot of “informal economy” sales that happen around South Africa, whether it is legal or not. So, we each went on our way.

As I sit down in my comfortable living room, I wonder about the two booksellers I met that day. I wonder where they are now, and show,their lives are.

Darkness Into Light

Easter Sunday 2015 was less than 3 months after my mom had passed away. My heart and my spirit were not at all ready for an Easter celebration. But fortunately, our worship experience last year was just what my grieving heart needed.

Our family had been on school holiday. We were enjoying some restful and restorative time at Kruger National Park. But we had plans to join one of the parishes hosting a YAGM for Easter worship.

I had inquired when we should arrive. I knew worship would be all Saturday night, all weekend really. But I knew we would not be there all night. I was told to come at 5am for the procession of the light.

I wasn’t familiar with what this meant but I trusted it to be true. We were staying about 45 minutes away so we made our way in the dark to the church. As we arrived, they were just passing out individual candles, like I am accustomed to for Christmas Eve. We each were given a candle. The church was packed. Many people were also outside.

It is at that time that the worship leaders began moving from the front of the church, down the aisle, and outside. And then, we all followed. And it was indeed a procession of light.

It was still darkness around us. But we sang and we sang as we walked through the community with our lit candles. We helped each other find our way and miss rough patches in the dirt road. Others knew the way much better and I could tell they were looking out for us to make sure we were okay.

I don’t remember the details of the experience. I wish I could describe it better. But what I know is that by walking with other believers in the dark, with our individual lights, we were a strong community. And my heart was soothed. My home traditions had brass and organ blaring loudly on Easter morning. But this felt more true. I wasn’t ready for happy sounds and bright lights. I still knew darkness. Yet I needed to be reminded of light in the midst of the darkness. And I needed to be with others who also knew it to be true. And as we walked through the neighborhood, we sang and we proclaimed that light does indeed shine in the midst of darkness. And the savior is indeed risen from the dead.

A photo taken while walking

A photo taken while walking

 

Cream and sugar?

For the last 8 months or so, we’ve had the privilege of having friends in town who come from the same place as we last lived. It’s pretty incredible to be living in another country and to reference stores and streets that we both know. Amy has been doing a much better job of blogging than I’ve been able to pull off. I’m sharing her post because it shares a lot about our regular lives and our kids’ school culture. The school she writes about is where Sophia is a student and Isaac was up until last January. (Isaac has now moved on to Grade 8 in a new school). Click on the link below (Cream and sugar?) and enjoy!

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Here I am with my American friend, Tessa, at…   Take a guess. Where do you think this photo was taken?

Source: Cream and sugar?

BE the change

This is both a metaphor and a literal experience of mine. It happened within the hour of my originally writing this (a few weeks back), in fact. I went out for a walk. That’s not unusual. I walk a lot in our neighborhood, often more than once a day. Sometimes I have a destination and task in mind (i.e. buying a few groceries from ‘the OK’) and sometimes I’m just out walking. Today I was just out walking to walk. And today it’s hot! Even when I got up at 5am this morning and opened the windows, the air outside was no cooler than inside. That generally translates to a hot-hot day. In addition, a storm rolled through shortly after I woke up but kept most of its moisture in the air so it’s hot and humid. (No surprise, since Pietermaritzburg has a sub-tropical climate, but still not my preference.) All this to say, it’s hot today and I chose a route very common to me. It includes what may be the biggest ‘valley’ in this community. Already on my way down one hill, I saw a woman slowly making her way up the other side. Even from a distance I could see that she walked with two canes and without ease.

I’d like to point out a little ironic twist in this story. I was wearing a t-shirt which quotes Gandhi: “BE the change.” I love the shirt for several reasons, but I do sometimes feel self-conscious when I wear it in public. After all, I am a white American male who is in South Africa working in global service through a church partnership. I also don’t like cliche. Being an American walking around in the city where Gandhi got kicked off the train in his ‘Rosa Parks moment’ (decades before Rosa Park’s famous moment)—well, you can probably see my discomfort coming a kilometer away.

I greeted the woman by saying, “Sawubona” (literally, “I see you.”). She responded with, “Yebo” (“yes”), a common answer to the greeting. She stopped in the shade of a tree growing along the roadside, less than a quarter of the way up the hill. My instinct was to slow down and stand with her and that’s what I did. Actually, I first thought of offering to carry her backpack, but that seemed just too potentially awkward. So I figured I’d walk with her up the hill, recognizing that could take maybe up to half an hour at this rate. I asked for an isiZulu lesson as we talked about the weather—‘shisa’ means hot, in case you didn’t know. I said that if I had wheels, I would give her a ride. She asked where I lived and shared that she’d made her way to the home where she works and, “Madam is on holiday.” She also shared that now she had to go through town and her children wanted money. We chatted a bit about other things.

It was at about this time that she started turning to look at a house slightly downhill. I thought maybe she was thinking of turning back and asking for water. She was sweating profusely, wiping at her brow and had also taught me the words for ‘dry’ and “there is no water around” when I asked for a translation of ‘hot’. A car pulled out of the garage of the house at which she was looking and into its driveway. My walking partner said something which included the words “Pick-n-Pay”, the grocery store up the other side of the hill. Oh, she wanted a ride, I realized! So I raised my hand as the car driver pulled out into the street. The driver was slow in leaving so I thought perhaps they were stopping. I thought the window might open but it didn’t. I don’t think they could have missed me but I took some steps towards the car and waved. They drove off. She thanked me for trying. I replied, “I could have run. Next time I’ll run.”

Before either of us had a chance to say much more (or make much headway up the hill), a truck came down the hill we were heading up. It stopped. The driver, seemingly a husband and dad with his wife in the passenger seat and two or three kids in the back seat, rolled down his window and asked, “Do you need a lift?” “Yes, she could use a ride,” I replied before my walking companion could even respond. “Where you going, girl?” The 30-something white man in the truck asked my walking companion who is maybe 50+ or perhaps even 60+. “Cascades,” she replied, now giving the name of a shopping mall a good 15k away on the other side of town. (Clearly she knows multiple routes home!) He shook his head but still invited her in as his ‘wife’ got out of the truck in order to get in the back seat with the kids. I called out, “Hamba Kahle” (“go well”) and I think the woman responded but I couldn’t hear. I turned away and took a few steps but turned back, thinking I ought to acknowledge the driver somehow. Should I thank him, I wondered. I raised my hand and he raised his, slightly. The gesture could have been my dad’s greeting of another farmer on a back country road in the Chatham township in the Minnesota of my youth.

I walked home and took off my sweaty “BE the change” shirt and hung it up to dry. I don’t know if I was the change on my walk but it is not common for me to stop and converse. I don’t regularly decide to join a stranger for a slow walk up a hill on a really hot day. Of course, I think the world and my understanding of God is calling for far more than changes in my walking and talking patterns (i.e. social injustices, disparity of resource distribution, environmental abuse, etc.). But for today, Mama got a ride at least part of the way to her destination in the front seat of a nearly new air-conditioned truck. And I am also changed. I’m still thinking of that walk we shared, a walk which ended up being about the length of one front yard’s width.

2015, part ii

As promised, here are the highlights from the 2nd half of 2015. If you missed the first half post, check it out here.

July

We had the Close of Service Retreat with the YAGM. This is always such an interesting retreat. The YAGM are exhausted and grieving as they have just left their communities and yet it is a ripe time for reflection and being together. We do a variety of activities in the retreat, including helping them begin to gather their thoughts on how they will tell of their experiences once they are home. It is holy time as they are in limbo land between one home and the next. This year, we were mostly in Pietermaritzburg. But we also traveled to the Drakensburg to do some hiking in gorgeous mountains.

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The kids enjoy the stream while the YAGM are on a more intense hike

One last photo at the airport

One last photo at the airport

 

August

In preparation for the new YAGM group, our family explored some places in Durban, including the beach.

Evidence that Durban is one of the busiest ports in Africa (ship on the horizon)

Evidence that Durban is one of the busiest ports in Africa (ship on the horizon)

It was also a “normal time” with field hockey for Isaac (he’s the goalie):

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And soccer for Sophia (she’s also the goalie although after this game decided she preferred a different position):

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And then at the end of the month, things got a bit crazy for me. The new YAGM group was already gathered in Chicago as they had just had their orientation with 70+ other YAGM going to serve around the world. But the work/volunteer permits hadn’t yet come through for the SA group. So I hopped onto a plane and joined them in Chicago for some Out-of-Country In-Country Orientation.

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Children’s dictionaries for the various languages they’d experience. Since they couldn’t start orientation by hearing those languages, I thought they should at least see them.

 

September

I met the new YAGM in Johannesburg when their permits finally came through. We spent about a week together finishing up our In-Country Orientation.

YAGM arrival! (One more arrived a few days later)

YAGM arrival! (One more arrived a few days later)

Then, our family headed out on a vacation during the kids’ term break. We returned to much-loved Cape Town. We also visited the Cedarberg Mountains and the West Coast National Park. See Jon’s blog post here for a special focus on the Rooibos Tea we learned about on our trip.

At the top of Table Mountain

At the top of Table Mountain

At West Coast National Park

At West Coast National Park

 

October

The YAGM came to Pietermaritzburg for a first retreat and some language training. I even joined in for the 20-hour language training.

Graduation from our 20-hour language courses, along with our instructors.

Graduation from our 20-hour language courses, along with our instructors.

Worship at the seminary (The Lutheran Theological Institute)

Worship at the seminary (The Lutheran Theological Institute)

The early Thanksgiving feast cooked by the group

The early Thanksgiving feast cooked by the group

And the kids’ school was part of a choir concert in the amazing Town Hall.

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And we celebrated Halloween with our American friends who are here for a year. No carving pumpkins this year so we used melons. We all had to adapt our pumpkin carving knowledge but it certainly worked out.

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November

I traveled the country and visited the YAGM in their sites. It is such a privilege to get to experience the diversity of the country, engage with our church companions, and witness the YAGM adapting to their new contexts. While no one picture can sum it all up, here is the only one I’m in.

A selfie of myself (left), YAGM volunteer Abby (right), and worker at the Lutheran church ministry for children (center)

A selfie of myself (left), YAGM volunteer Abby (right), and worker at the Lutheran church ministry for children (center)

At the end of the month, we had several extra events for end-of-the-year activities. In particular this year were several events as Isaac was finishing Grade 7 and thus would need to move to a different school for high school. (His primary school only has a girls’ high school).

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At the Leaver’s Chapel where the Grade 7s said goodby to the school.

 

December

School ended for the year at the beginning of December and summer vacation began.

Isaac with classmates on the last day of school.

Isaac with classmates on the last day of school.

Sophia with her Grade 5 teacher on the last day of school.

Sophia with her Grade 5 teacher on the last day of school.

The end of Primary School for Isaac was a change for both kids as they really loved being at the same school together. We’ll keep you posted as to how the new school is going.

Once school was out, we were visited by dear family friends, Jim and Carolyn Tonneson. We went on a couple day safari together and also spent time together in Pietermaritzburg. They also traveled in South Africa before coming to visit us.

On safari

On safari

We saw many wonderful things. This nursing toddler rhino was definitely a highlight.

We saw many wonderful things. This nursing toddler rhino was definitely a highlight.

After worship at an area ELCSA (Evangelical Lutheran Church in Southern Africa) congregation.

After worship at an area ELCSA (Evangelical Lutheran Church in Southern Africa) congregation.

For the rest of December, we enjoyed family and rest time. We have spent a lot of time in the last couple of years coming and going. For this holiday time, we needed to stay put.

Christmas Eve selfie

Christmas Eve selfie

One of many games of Catan that were enjoyed over the break

One of many games of Catan that were enjoyed over the break

At the end of the year, we were (and continue to be) grateful for health, friends, family, and the opportunity to live, serve, and be transformed in South Africa.

New Eyes for American History

When we were on Home Assignment in 2014, the kids missed 1/4 of their school year. To compensate for this, we developed our own home schooling / on-the-road plan. As part of that plan, the kids did some reading in key topic areas from American history that we chose with them. These topic areas were based on themes that United States History had in common (or related to) themes from South Africa. The American History topics were:

  1. First Peoples / Native Americans
  2. Early Colonists / Revolutionary War
  3. American Civil War / Slavery
  4. Early Settlers / Westward Expansion (railroads, gold rush, Louisiana Purchase) / Immigration
  5. Civil Rights

I had great fun putting together related books for each topic week. Retired teacher friend Holle even temporarily called back in some of her books she had donated to her school when she retired. Each week, the kids were presented with the topic and the possible books that they could read. They were then free to choose what to read.

When we were on the road, we would designate certain time blocks as theme week reading times. One week, when we got to the church we were visiting early, we even spent time at the town library. The kids tried out their library research skills to find more material for that week’s theme. We tried to then talk about the readings at the end of each week.

Recently, I came across this great list of “13 Honest Books About Slavery Young People Should Actually Read.” I wish I had this when I was planning the kids’ reading in 2014. There look to be some really good and important books in the post. Over and over again, our time in South Africa is asking us to look at our home context of the United States and see it more honestly. This list of books is a good start.